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How to work with your inner critic to take action
Do you have a tough inner critic that prevents you from moving forward and taking action? Make sure to download my free guide in the resources page for full details!
Here are my 3 easy steps to QUIET your inner critic so you can finally move forward!
1) STOP. First, just STOP everything. Notice the now and what is going on. Be open to what is without resisting. This can be as easy as taking an intentional breath. Inhale through your nose, and exhale open mouth sigh letting go…
2) ASK. Next, ASK yourself why is this coming up? What pain am I avoiding by not doing this thing? Bring a lens of curiosity to get to the root cause.
3) CHAT. Lastly, have a CHAT and befriend your critic. Can you treat yourself with kindness the way you would a close friend or partner? Try to understand and collaborate.
How to find community
It's crazy to think I've met more people in the last few months than in the last few years! I hear many friends and clients share the sentiment that it's hard to make friends once you're out of school and I can totally relate.
I was in my comfort zone for the longest time! But having jumped into the deep end with entrepreneurship now, I wanted to share some thoughts based on my experience for building a new community and tribe.
1) Come from a place of service.
What is your intention behind making a connection? Can you come from a place of give rather than take? Remembering that you DO have a lot to offer.
2) Be curious.
I know it's easy to get in our heads when we're meeting a new person whether it's their intimidating title or appearance. But don't forget that they are also human. Just like you. Can you be open and curious about their life? Be present and listen.
3) Have fun!
There's no perfect way to connect with someone and I know in our virtual world today, I've definitely had more than a few zoom mess-ups. But I try to remember that everything is unfolding as it should and to just enjoy the experience for what it is!
Reply back to let me know your thoughts and any best tips on finding your people! I would love to connect and help you in any way that I can. I invite you to book a free clarity call below so we can chat more about what's keeping you from your dream life.
How to have better boundaries
I have been working with clients and hearing their struggles dealing with other people who aren't respecting their boundaries and then overextending themselves. I really feel this, because I was always worried about what other people would think or say about me and would want to go along with things so I could be “accepted”.
I wanted to offer you my thoughts on holding better boundaries so that you can take better care of yourself.
First, I invite you think of a boundary as a clear request of someone with a clear consequence. By consequence, I mean an action that you will actually take if the person doesn't fulfill the request. So if I'm staying up late working, I can request that a co-worker/boss respect my work hours and state that I will not respond after hours. Now, the tricky part is, you actually have to not respond after hours! I know it can be scary because most of us want the clear boundaries but we don't want to follow through on the consequence part. But this action is the most important piece, otherwise the boundary won't have any validity and be taken seriously! If you say you're going to do something but never actually do it, after a while, who's going to believe you? Is this resonating?
I know boundary conversations can be really challenging and please remember that you don't have to do this alone. I want to help! Book a free clarity call so I can help you identify the obstacles keeping you from being 100% confident and living a guilt-free life!
Living with Ease
Something I've learned to embrace more is living with ease and flow. As opposed to urgency and hustle. Don't get me wrong, there are definitely situations when you do want to act quickly. But most of the time, I find that the “busyness” only adds to my stress and I end up accomplishing less or feeling so exhausted.
If you remember the mind-body connection, any time you have a new task or deadline, it can be seen as a potential threat because it's unfamiliar and the brain activates pathways to help you prepare for “fight or flight”. This is why we often get performance anxiety and feel butterflies in our stomach before a big presentation or feedback conversation. If you are unable to turn off your body's stress response, your body stays in a state of chronic stress which often leads to issues like anxiety, insomnia, pain, heart disease, autoimmune conditions and yes, even cancers.
So how do you get out of this chronic state of stress? Well, it's a process. And it starts with you being open and committed to taking care of yourself.
Healing is a journey that looks different for everyone. Some days are easy, some days are hard. But every little bit counts. As you re-build the relationship with yourself, you learn to trust and listen. And when you know that you can handle everything no matter what, you don't waste time worrying about what's going to happen because you take action and get exactly where you want to go.
Reply back if you want to live a life filled with balance and joy! I would love to connect and help you in any way that I can. Let's chat more about what's keeping you from your dream life.
Fast track to healing
I've been thinking a lot lately about my own healing journey and how I could help others expedite their process. Here are three steps that I wish I knew earlier!
Sometimes you have to pause and slow down in order to go faster. It's not just about pushing and doing. In fact, that's the one sure way to burnout. Allow yourself to sit in stillness from time to time.
Ask for help. From yourself and from others. You don't have to do it alone. There is someone out there who knows exactly how to help you so you don't have to stay stuck and struggle any longer than necessary.
I encourage you to listen to what is coming up for you. Are you excited or are you resisting? Feelings are just a vibration in the body and a signal that something may or may not be in our best interest.
What are your thoughts? What works/worked for you?
How to forgive someone (and yourself)
Every time I bring up the concept of forgiveness, I can almost hear a groan or see an eye roll. It makes me wonder why do we shy away from it?
I can tell you that I had the hardest time forgiving some people in my life. There were some deep wounds. I was so convinced they wronged me and I was justified in holding a grudge. Someone had to, right? But over time, all this did was weigh me down like a ton of bricks and slowly drained all my joy and zest for life.
If you are having a hard time with someone in your life right now or from the past, I want to remind you... Forgiveness is NOT the same as forgetting, condoning or approving or pretending that you were not hurt. The truth is, what happened happened. But forgiveness is how you can actually release the anger and resentment so you can finally move on with your life. (The other person probably forgot about it already, ages ago.)
So much of my work is helping people focus on the now and live in the BEAUTY OF THE PRESENT. When we are upset about the past or worried about the future, we are missing out on what's in front of us! The present is where we have all the power to create and change things! We are not victims. We don't have to be stuck if we don't want to be.
When I started the healing journey of self-discovery, it wasn't all rainbows and daisies. It's like finally going into the dark closet and cleaning out those cobwebs. But through learning to process my feelings and looking within, I gained courage, wisdom and trust in myself. And I saw that the person I most needed to forgive was... me. Because if you don't fully love and accept yourself, it's really hard to fully love and accept others.
If you are ready to explore the path of forgiveness, I invite you to try these steps:
1) PAUSE - Stop and notice what is going on. How do you actually feel?
2) ASK - What was so upsetting or hurtful about the experience? Do you think they genuinely wanted to cause you harm?
3) SELF-COMPASSION - How can you be kind to yourself about what happened? Know that you were trying your best and release yourself from any blame or shame.
4) GRATITUDE - Appreciate what happened in the past and that you are stronger because of it.
5) ACTION - Make a decision to let go so you can move on.
Do the 5 steps look familiar? Yep, it's my proven process to anything
(Remember the mnemonic- punk artists sing great anthems!)
Anyway, I really want to help you STRENGTHEN your belief in yourself and be able to handle any and all situations. When you are not afraid to feel any feeling, when you know you have your own back and can get through it all, you are unstoppable.
If something has been bothering you for a long time, I invite you to BOOK A FREE CLARITY CALL below so you can see how coaching will help you move past the struggles and live a life of ease starting now.
How to be productive (not busy)
In today’s world, we’ve associated being busy with being productive and wear it around like a badge of honor. I invite you to re-frame how you see “busy” and ask yourself if that's how you really want to feel.
I remember when I was in school and training I would talk about how busy I was all the time. Thinking I had to fill my schedule up completely. Signing up for this training and that certification, volunteering here and speaking there. I thought that was the key to success, when all it did was wear me out.
You’ve probably heard about the myth of multi-tasking and how it actually reduces your efficiency and performance because the brain can really only focus on one thing at a time.
We like to think that more is better when it’s not necessarily true. Quality over quantity. I can tell you when I was involved in eight different campus groups, I definitely didn’t show up as fully as when I was involved in three.
So I invite you to consider that it’s OK to do less. In order to be productive, you need to give yourself the space to fully show up and be present. You also want to set tangible markers for success so you know you’re on the right track.
Here’s a PRODUCTIVITY TIP for you- when you write out your to-do list or set up your calendar, I invite you to set aside a certain amount of time and focus on producing the desired result in that time. Instead of setting aside one hour to “work on blog” or “plan event”, say “I will write two blog posts” or “I will call 3 vendors and pick my favorite one”.
Our brain likes to wallow in confusion and delay decision making because it takes more energy to change than stay the same. But you don’t have to keep feeling lost and overwhelmed! I’m here to help you take massive action so you can reach all your goals and live with ease. It’s totally possible!
If you’ve been stuck on something, I invite you to book a free clarity call so I can walk you through what's going on, identify what's NOT working and how to change it for GOOD so you can feel better and get what you want! Please stop struggling alone.
How to not take things personally
Can I tell you something? I was always a very sensitive person. Ever since I was young, my crying threshold was quite low so it wouldn't take much for me to cry. As I continued through life, inevitably, there were hurtful moments when I would just break down, despite my intentions to be “strong”. This has happened in professional settings such as during feedback conversations, or in personal settings such as heated discussions with a partner or family member.
I realized that the moments when I felt defensive and lashed out or cried, it was because it triggered and hit a nerve in me. While it was uncomfortable to examine the root cause, it pointed me to the areas that I needed healing in. It usually stemmed from the fact that I had my own doubts and insecurities about myself. And when someone commented on it, it was simply a reflection of what I was feeling internally. I was expecting others to judge, blame and reject the same things I wasn’t proud of myself. It’s like they discovered my secret!
Unfortunately, when we feel upset and defensive, emotions are high and we are often not thinking clearly to respond appropriately. And then we may say things we regret and lead to more shame and regret later. And the downward spiral continues…
So how do you get out of this terrible cycle when you feel triggered by something?
First, PAUSE to recognize that something is happening. Pay attention to what is going on and how you’re feeling. Allow what is.
And then be curious to ASK and understand why it’s coming up.
- What is the insecurity it is triggering inside you? Know that this is completely normal as a human and there is nothing wrong with you.
- Are you setting reasonable standards or impossible expectations?
- When the person/situation happened, what did you make it mean about who you are as a person?
- Do you think they meant to hurt you?
- What if they misunderstood?
Next, treat yourself with SELF-COMPASSION and offer words of kindness to yourself. Remember self-compassion consists of 3 parts (mindfulness, common humanity and self-kindness). You can refer to my video below
Once you feel heard, express GRATITUDE for this growth opportunity to face your fears and become a better you. In challenging situations, see how you can expand your perspective. Be the bigger person.
Lastly, think about what needs to happen to fix the problem and take ACTION. Don’t wallow in confusion, disappointment or shame. Channel the energy into something productive so you can move forward and be a part of the solution.
Yes, you may have noticed this is my 5-step process to working through anything (PASGA, or use the mnemonic “punk artists sing great anthems”). The reason I share is because it works.
Remember, situations arise in our circumstances, but they are NEUTRAL. We get to choose what we think about it. The weather, current events, and yes, even other people. Coaching helps you examine your thoughts so you can pick ones that help you feel better and propel you forward productively. Through working with a life coach, I learned that I didn’t have to change my challenging work situation or cut ties with people in order to feel better. This helped me get un-stuck immediately. I also didn’t have to suffer or sacrifice things I enjoyed. I just had to take care of and believe in myself! This was the best news because I have total control over myself!
If you are ready to take better care of yourself, I invite you to book a free clarity call with me below. On this call, we will walk through what's going on in your life, what's not working and how to change it for good so you can feel better and get what you want. I will show you the blindspots and get you answers to your problems.
Please know that it's possible to live a life of ease and joy, not just when you're on vacation but in your every day, as life is happening, right now!
How to stop comparing yourself to others
When was the last time you truly felt good enough, just as you are? The answer to that question will determine how often you are comparing yourself to others.
The truth is, we live in a world full of comparison and have been conditioned to believe there is a right way and a wrong way to do things. I want you to consider that there is more than one way and that your way is the perfect way.
When you accept and love yourself unconditionally, it will not matter what others think or say about you. Maybe you’ve tried to make small talk but unintentionally offended the other person who then wants nothing to do with you… Oops. We’ve all been there and made mistakes. Instead of sitting in shame or drama, you can forgive yourself and let go to move on. You can stop “should-ing” all over yourself. Because that never feels good.
If you want to stop comparing yourself to others, here are 4 things to keep in mind.
1) You need to believe that you are in a category of one. Why do you need to compare yourself to anyone else when you are in your own league?
2) Understand that true validation comes from within and that you are enough, right now. Not when you get the degree, promotion, a certain amount of money, the ideal partner, fill-in-the-blank. If you are constantly looking for these external “things” to prove and validate your worth, you will never feel like you are good enough because there is always something “more” to do, get or have.
3) Be present, stay in your lane and enjoy this journey of loving and healing yourself. Know that you are here on your own life journey and others are here for theirs. We never really know what is going on for someone else and why does it matter? Don’t waste time on someone else when you are here for you and your people.
4) Focus on what’s working. Tap into the abundance mindset, recognizing that you already have everything you need and want. If you are constantly seeking what you don’t have, it will only reinforce the lack and scarcity in your life. You are training your brain to look for what’s missing and end up finding more of it. Practice gratitude and you will cultivate more of what you want.
When you are constantly comparing yourself to others, it’s exhausting mentally, physically and emotionally and the fast track to burnout. Next time you’re in an argument with a partner or family member and they say “why can’t you be more like so-and-so?”, I want you to be able to stay grounded and respond calmly instead of lashing out or shutting down and fuming inside.
If you want to learn how to have your own back no matter what and create your own calm in any circumstance, I invite you to book a free clarity call to see what obstacles are in your way and how coaching will help. BTW, coaching is an investment in yourself. It makes sense that you don’t want to take a risk when you don’t think you’ll have the reward. But what I want to know is, why don’t you think you can get the reward and results you want?
As your coach, I am not here to tell you what to do. But I want you to know that I see you as the best version of you and I’m here to help you see it too. Even if you don’t believe it yet. My intention is to always set you up for success and for you to be self-sufficient and empowered to create more of what you want. I’m on your side and can’t wait to see the extraordinary life you were meant to live.
How to find your PURPOSE
Are you feeling fulfilled in your current life? Maybe you can’t wait to wake up and start every day!
Or do you ever wonder if you are on the right track? Doing what you’re meant to do?
Here’s the truth, it sucks when you are not doing something you love. You feel like a cog in the wheel, going through the motions and before you know it, another year has gone by. We’ve been in a pandemic for how long?!
I love working with clients who come to me confused saying they have no idea what to do next and then light up with passion after working together.
Or the ones who have been doing all the “right” things, working in their “dream job”, yet still feel like something is missing inside. I understand how hard it is to take the first step to admit things aren’t working and to ask for help. As high-achievers, we pride ourselves on being able to “figure things out”. But at what cost?
I want you to know that you have a very important purpose in life…
You are here to be YOU! And to share your gifts with the ones around you.
The reason you are feeling lost is because you have lost connection with yourself. Coaching is the process of recovering this connection. Because you already have all the answers within.
To rebuild this connection and trust in yourself, I recommend the following:
1) Spend time alone. It can be 5 min or 3 hours. Intentionally carve out time for you.
2) Do something you truly enjoy. What was fun to you as a kid? What activities make you lose track of time (excluding netflix binges and scrolling on social media)? What nourishes you? When do you feel seen?
3) Play make-believe and dream. If I gave you a magic lamp, what would you wish for? Your dreams can’t come true if you don’t have any dreams. Dare to dream big.
4) Understand your values without judgment. There is no shame in wanting to make a lot of money. Or to not work at all! But be honest with yourself. Use this as an inner compass to direct you.
5) Hire a coach. Of course you need a coach! It can be scary when you’re redefining your career and life. The people around you may or may not understand. They love you but they often want you to stay the same. It’s hard to do it alone.
Working with a coach doesn’t mean you are weak or inadequate. It’s actually the contrary. It means you are brave and deserving of more than what you currently have. Plus, a coach helps you see your blindspots meaning you avoid unintentional mistakes. Saving you years of unnecessary suffering. If you’ve been feeling stuck on what to do next in your life, I want you to book a free clarity call to explore how coaching will help.
BTW, if you know a friend who has been feeling stuck or lost, can you do me a favor and forward this email to them? I left medicine for coaching so I could help people feel better and manage their minds without prescribing medications. I’m here to serve as many people as possible! Thanks in advance :)
Too much on your plate?
Did you wake up feeling rested today? Or did you snooze your alarm to sneak in a few extra minutes?
Maybe you had your whole day planned out. Meetings back-to-back. You spend the few minutes between meetings quickly scrolling social media. Instead of standing for a quick stretch.
You don’t go to the bathroom because you didn’t drink any water. Or you’re constantly going because you had so much caffeine.
You're working in your dream job.You do everything for everyone else. You’re supposed to be happy. But you’re too tired to be happy. And you’re tired of feeling tired.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Say yes when we mean no. Smile and nod when we want to scream and flee.
If you find yourself constantly exhausted and unsure what to do... I want you to pay close attention.
Are you ready?
IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY!!
It’s true. You don’t have to overwork. You don’t have to sacrifice your self-care time for others. You don’t have to do it all. Because no one can.
We hold ourselves to these impossible standards. We think perfection is the only way. The only way to be… Enough. Helpful. Valued. Appreciated. Fulfilled. Rich. Happy. Worthy.
NO! You are already complete, right now, as you are! Committing to extra things and finishing it in record time does not change this reality.
I want you to ask yourself, what am I trying to prove? To whom?
BE BRAVE enough to say no. Even if it means someone else will be upset with you.
If the thought of saying no and disappointing others makes you nauseous and cringe, I want you to reply with “ugh”. Tell me what you want to say no to and I’ll send you personalized recommendations to help. Your secret is safe with me, promise.
And if you’re ready to prioritize self-care so you can actually feel good and enjoy the life you worked so hard for, I want you to book a free clarity call NOW. On the call, you can tell me what’s going on and I’ll help you see WHY it’s not working and what to do next. It sucks to keep putting yourself last. We need to do a full reset so you can live and enjoy your life, your way.
How to create more TIME
Are you constantly stressed? Rushing from one thing to the next? Wishing you had more time to spare?
You might think the perfect solution is to have “more” time.
What would you do with an extra day each week and the same amount of commitments?!
But we know this is impossible. So now you're stuck. You're exhausted just looking at your calendar.
The thing is, everyone has the same 604,800 seconds in a week.
You don’t need more time if you’re not maximizing the time you already have.
Time is relative.
The way we experience time comes from how we THINK about it.
That’s why sometimes it goes fast and sometimes it goes slow.
When you think “I have no time for this, there’s no way I can fit this into my schedule”, how does that make you feel?
I know it makes me feel stressed. And when I’m feeling stressed, I’m not performing at my best. And then I don’t end up with the results I wanted.
You might be saying, I really don’t have time for this. But let’s be honest. How much time do you spend NOT being productive? Multi-tasking? Scrolling on social media? Worrying about what you are and aren't supposed to do?
If you want to have more time in your day, here are some of my best tricks:
I like to plan out my week on Sundays and also check-in the day before to confirm that everything still feels good to me.
By plan, I mean really break it down. Length of time, anticipated activities, expected results, etc. I also book fun and self-care stuff FIRST, and then work. Don't misinterpret planning as filling your schedule up fully. It's crucial to have blank s p a c e. So you can just rest and b r e a t h e.
Planning might seem like a lot of work. But it's actually a lot easier because you don't have to waste time “figuring out” what to do next.
2) DELEGATE and SAY NO
You do NOT have to do everything. Really. It’s OK.
Give other people a chance to help. Hire help if you can.
And delegating doesn’t always mean paying someone. You can make deals or trades. Someone takes out the trash while the other does the dishes. Everyone wins.
Commit to your plan 100%.
Know that it’s totally normal for your brain to NOT want to do what you planned. But the work lies in actually following through.
Every time you keep your word to yourself, you are building trust with yourself. The more you trust yourself, the better you will feel about any decision you make.
So if you gave yourself one hour, then you better do it in that hour. For YOU. If you don’t set a limit, your brain will want to procrastinate and make it more complicated than it needs to be. Just do it.
Now if you spent more time than anticipated, don’t judge yourself. Just be curious and evaluate what happened. If you find it hard to be curious, pretend to be a famous scientist who is running an experiment that failed. You don’t just give up. You would analyze what happened to understand what to change for next time. You don't make it mean anything bad about you. Learn, tweak and move on. Don’t wallow in self-pity.
Plan with precision
Honor your word
I have so many more productivity hacks to stay organized and efficient but don't want to overwhelm you.
What do you think? Reply and tell me which one you want to try! I'll send you a personalized video to help you implement it into your busy life :)
If you’re tired of not having enough time in your day, I want you to book a call with me now. Stop saying “I’m too busy” because you are here to enjoy your life, not to be “busy”.
Coaching is the KEY to understanding your mind and creating more time in your life.
Let me help you get there.
Don't EVER do this!
Wow, can you believe the year is almost over? When things come to an end, it’s the perfect time for reflection so I want you to take a few minutes and do this exercise with me.
1) Find a comfortable place where you will not be disturbed for at least 5 minutes. Have pen & paper handy.
2) Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Allow your breath to reach your belly and feel the expansion. Notice the ground beneath you. Remember that you are safe and supported in this moment.
3) Ask yourself: Did I have a good year?
Stop and listen. Write down everything that comes to mind, WITHOUT filter or judgment.
If you said yes, WHAT made it good? WHO made it good?
If you said no, WHAT made it bad? WHO made it bad?
Now, I want you to take a quick moment to skim what came up.
Did you include yourself in any of the answers? Why or why not?
I hope you put yourself in the good section.
I hope you gave yourself credit for everything you accomplished this year.
But if all the good reasons were OTHER people and OTHER things… and nothing about you…
I want you to PAY CLOSE ATTENTION.
DON’T EVER DO THIS AGAIN.
You need to believe in yourself. Appreciate yourself. Trust yourself.
If you are constantly looking for validation in things OUTSIDE of you, you will NEVER feel good enough.
You will constantly be chasing things. People and circumstances you have NO control over.
So what do you do instead?
Learn to have your own back.
Learn to accept yourself.
I hope this gave you some things to think about as we go into the new year.
Let me know all the good things about your year! I want to celebrate all your wins & success!!
If your year was awful, you're welcome to share with me too. Let's move past it so the next one becomes your best year ever!!
End your year on a high note. You got this!
How to STOP being unhappy
I'm so glad you're taking the time to read this. It's a realization that WILL change your life.
Think about the last time you got annoyed.
Did someone cut you off? Miss your connecting flight because of plane maintenance or malfunction (I mean, did it really have to break now?!)?
The reason you are unhappy is because…
You are trying to control something you have NO control over.
This might be another person, your current situation, the past, or the future.
Hate to break it to you.
But the only thing we can control is ourselves.
What we believe in. How we respond. The actions we take.
So what now?
Did you know that it’s POSSIBLE to be happy without trying to control _________ (insert your current source of frustration)?
So to stop being unhappy, you just have to change your thoughts. Focus on what you CAN control.
(Psst! This is exactly what you learn through coaching!)
Coaching provides a safe and non-judgmental space to have powerful conversations. It’s complementary but NOT the same as therapy. (Read the differences here.)
You learn tools and skills to unravel your old patterns and beliefs that are making you unhappy.
Delete the ones that don’t serve you.
Download new ones that fast-track you to success and ease.
Book a free clarity call to change your life for the better.
On the 30-min zoom call, you can tell me what's NOT working. And I will share resources to support you right now. We can also explore if coaching together makes sense.
I can teach you how to stop feeling…
Overwhelmed. Guilty. Exhausted. Stuck. Confused. Inadequate.
Because I felt all those and more. And it sucked. So I don’t want you to deal with it too.
You deserve more. You HAVE what it takes. I got you.
And if you think it’s a long process and a lot of work… You have to read about Abby’s experience:
“In just one hour, Cindy transformed my mindset from “I'm so overwhelmed and stressed I can’t function” to “what a privilege to do the work I do!” She really helped me get realistic about what is considered a success, failure, and most importantly how mindset is the key to overcoming stress or self-doubt. After our session, I found myself smiling and reminding myself of the privilege I have to live the life I have and do the work I do rather than letting it get overwhelming.”
How to ALWAYS make the right decision
Every day you're faced with countless decisions.
You don't want to make a mistake…
So how do you make the RIGHT choice?
I’ve said this before…
The decision you make in the moment is the right one.
Because you’re trying your best and using the information you have at that point in time.
BUT, I know it's helpful to have specific steps and direction.
Don’t worry, I got you.
Here’s a trick I use myself and share with clients:
USE YOUR BODY
What does this mean? It means tuning into your body and the messages it’s sending you. Believe it or not, our bodies are constantly sharing answers with us.
The problem is, we have forgotten how to listen.
If you've been having trouble making a decision, set aside a few minutes to do this simple exercise below!!
Take a moment and find a quiet place where you can sit by yourself without interruption. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.
Keep your eyes closed and think about an amazing vacation you had in the past. See it come to life. Notice how you feel in your body.
Is there any tingling or warmth? Is your breathing shallow or deep? Do you feel expansive or constricted?
Keep your eyes closed and think about a recent experience that made you feel annoyed**- maybe someone cutting you off in traffic or waiting two hours for customer service. Notice how you feel in your body.
Is there any tingling or warmth? Is your breathing shallow or deep? Do you feel expansive or constricted?
(**Please only bring up memories you feel comfortable exploring. Some traumas are deep and best explored with a professional.)
Now that you have a sense of what feels “good” in your body, ask yourself the different options and let your body sensations guide you.
If you feel tight and constricted, that’s probably not the best path right now. Be present in the moment and trust that you have all the answers.
How was that exercise for you?
Reply and let me know what a “good” decision feels like to you! I would love to hear from you!
If you want to take this work deeper and learn how to make the best decision for you, EVERY TIME, come work with me!
Book a call so I can share my process to help you prioritize you without guilt or shame. In my coaching process, I integrate different tools and skills so that you can reconnect with who you are, take care of yourself and live a meaningful life of ease and joy.